September 30th, 2007

Summary:   To all of those who I have 'intimidated and silenced'...a gift

I've been told in comments associated with a post in the O'Reilly Women in Tech series that I've 'intimidated and silenced' others, presumably because of my wicked, evil communication skills and general, overall not niceness.

Well, huh.

Do let me know if you've felt 'intimidated or silenced' by me in the past, and I'll be sure to send you a warm glass of milk and a cookie.

Here, here's a fluffy kitten to hold.

I am kitten hear me squeek

(image derived from photo by fieldsbh)

Comments
1
Bud Gibson - 12:07 pm 9/30/2007

I would actually prefer a copy of a book or a free gift certificate for a tech book.

I'm always a little amazed that anyone can say they feel intimidated in electronic media. For the most part, I find people giving free reign to their id, not the opposite.

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What kind of cookie? I'm only feeling intimidated and silenced if it's chocolate chip.

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Shelley - 12:28 pm 9/30/2007

Bud, take your cookie and shut up ;-)

Scott, chocolate chips require that I do more than intimidate and silence you–I have to permanently crush your hopes and aspirations. Have I have crushed your hopes and aspirations? Have you earned those chips?

4

"Do let me know if you've felt 'intimidated or silenced' by me

Umm, isn't that something of a logical paradox? :-)

Not technically, but it has that flavor.

(I don't feel intimidated or silenced by you - but there are people from who I'd view that sort of thing as bullies daring anyone to call them on being bullies).

But if you could do so, imagine what industry movers-and-shakers can do :-(.

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Shelley - 1:56 pm 9/30/2007

Seth, no cookies for you. And give me back the kitten.

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Kitten? I'M IN UR BLOG COMMENTZ, 1NTIMID4TING YUR SILENC3S

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Shelley - 5:46 pm 9/30/2007

I'M EATEN UR COOKIE

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dave rogers - 7:04 pm 9/30/2007

I'm eating your kitten.

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jeneane - 7:07 pm 9/30/2007

im afrad to lv my yardz.

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Shelley - 9:44 pm 9/30/2007

That's MAH kitten! Spit 'er out, Dave. Go gnaw Bodhi.

Jeneane, I LURKEN N UR YRD!

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Kaf - 9:46 pm 9/30/2007

My, that's some kitten you have there, Shelley.

But, why is it looking at me like that? It's sort of intimidating….

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Shelley - 10:15 pm 9/30/2007

IM N UR FACE KAF. IM STEALEN UR BRAIN.

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Aruni - 10:17 pm 9/30/2007

Shelley - if someone is intimidated doesn't that say more about them than you? I guess I don't intimidate easily. I suppose if someone was threating to harm me or my family, I would feel intimidated but as they say 'sticks and stones may break by bones but words will never hurt me." And shall I add if I discover the words did hurt me, then I can go find a therapist and pay them to hopefully hurt less. :-)

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madame l. - 1:38 am 10/1/2007

Yes, you've silenced me in the past and I expect you will continue to intimidate me as well. I, too, am afraid to leave my yard in Ekalaka Lake, Montana 59324.

I like my positive chakra.

LOLicoptering

Shelley, I mean no disrespect. I am just not so severe with my own kind/sex. We all have our own ways.

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Shelley - 2:20 pm 10/1/2007

Aruni, I really doubt I've intimidated anyone into silence. Or at least not intimidated silence. I've met a lot of pursed lips silence, complete with sniffs of disapproval given from long noses from which the people look down on my noisy, inelegant, brassy ways– but not based on intimidation.

IM N UR LAKE, MADAME, EATEN UR FISH!

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Amyloo - 6:38 pm 10/1/2007

I can't get the hang of lolcat grammar, even after reading the guide! It feels like it's somebody else's family's dialect of babytalk.

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Shelley - 6:51 pm 10/1/2007

There's a guide?

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jeneane - 8:50 pm 10/1/2007

link to guide plz!

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Zo - 12:26 am 10/2/2007

Click here. (I always wanted to write that.)

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SB - 11:26 pm 10/3/2007

That is one SCARY, EVIL-looking kitten.

Yikes.

I'm outta here.

[Thanks for the guide, Zo]

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Shelley - 7:59 am 10/5/2007

I want to echo SB: thanks for providing a link to the guide, Zo.

22
someone - 1:41 pm 10/5/2007

yes. you have. but i'm so intimidated i'm not going to say my name.

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Anna - 2:09 pm 10/6/2007

Um, how?

I mean, wtf. Oh yeah - women are supposed to only be "nice". If we're not "nice" (i.e., if we're not saying sh*t like "oh yes, of course you're right and know so much more than I do on this topic."), we're intimidating and silencing others, or worse - we're being "bitchy".

Pah. Be as "not nice" as you feel appropriate to the situation.

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Norman Walsh - 10:04 pm 10/12/2007

/me laughs. Try harder?

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