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Trip report—why traveling through the mountains in April is a bad idea

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I have a couple of essays to post this weekend once I transcribe them from my paper journal to digital. But in the meantime, I thought I would post a pic or two from San Fran, as well as write about the trip home.

I had forgotten that the storage place I used in San Francisco was only accessible during business hours. Since I couldn’t get in on Easter Sunday, I spent the day at the Dog Beach (Crissy), Golden Gate watching the surfers, and the piers. The weather was quite pleasant and I was able to get my pelican fix at the beach.

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I spent several hours at the storage unit, amazed at how clean everything was. Not a speck of dust on any of the boxes. It was uncanny, like I had just stored the stuff the day before. I managed to haul several boxes down into Golden Girl including the rest of my photo stuff, organize some of the rest, and grabbed my kites. I am determined to fly my big kite this year, even if I do break it.

I started out early Tuesday morning and kept hearing reports about chains required on Donner’s Pass, but the roads were clear. The snow that was falling was so dry, it didn’t stick. Traveling through Nevada and Utah was uneventful, but beautiful as always, especially Echo Valley and Salt Lake.

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I stayed in Evanston, Wyoming the first night, just on the other side of the Utah/Wyoming border, a town I can recommend visiting if you’re interested in small, pretty towns with interesting quirks. All in all, first day was easy, fun.

Second day was anything but easy or fun. The snow started not long after I left Evanston and it continued heavily throughout the day. Golden Girl’s not the best car in snow, but if I stayed in the trails cut by the semi trucks, I was okay. On the radio I heard that the pass between Laramie and Cheyenne was closed due to the snow, so I pulled off in Laramie to get gas and check the conditions. Unfortunately, due to inexperience with this type of driving, I pulled off a little too fast. Trying to break, I ended up sliding sideways down the ramp, past the stop sign and into the main street. Luckily, other cars had seen I was out of control and stopped, so I was able to gently come to a stop without hitting anything. Life number one.

At the gas station I found out that the pass was open and I continued on. Staying in Laramie would just postpone the inevitable because the weather report had snow in the mountains through the weekend.

As I tried to pull back on to the freeway, the wind was so hard it had coated the driver side of my car with heavy wet snow and I couldn’t see if any cars were coming. I tried opening the window, only to get a blast of snow in the face. I couldn’t stop though so I slid on to the freeway hoping again that people would see that I didn’t have a lot of options at that point. Luckily the semi that was coming had pulled over into the other lane and didn’t hit me. Life number two.

The pass was bloody awful. They had just opened it before I started, and closed it again not long after I began. The snow was so heavy it was dark out and the visibility was limited to the car ahead and behind you. What was worse was the trucks weren’t that impacted by the snow and would blast past, blinding you with their spray. Whatever empathy I had for truck drivers before, I lost it on this trip.

The type of snow was wet and icy and formed ridges between the lanes. If I accidentally hit the ridge, GG would get thrown to the side and I’d have to fight to get control again. I ended stuck behind a moving truck towing a car that was going very, very slow. Eventually, all the other cars had passed us and I was the last.

It’s hard to explain why I did what I did next. I think I was desperate to get off the mountain, and to be among other cars. I decided since I had room I would try and pass the slow car ahead of me. As I tried, I found myself slipping on the snow in the barely traveled fast lane so I pulled back. As I did, I started to slide to the right so I turned the wheel to the left. Too hard. I hit the ridge of snow at a angle and it literally caught me hard, turned me 360 degrees, spinning me into the ditch at the side of the road. It happened so fast that one moment I was trying to correct the slide, and next moment, I heard a huge thump and I was in the ditch.

Luckily, I didn’t hit the concrete barrier, or the side of the mountain. The thump was my back tires going off the pavement, which was a drop, and into the soft shoulder. I landed abruptly and the gravel and snow build up stopped my motion, snapping me about a bit, but no real harm. The car was jarred but no dents, just some additional wear and tear that gives a car character over time. Life number three.

However, I was all alone on the mountain, in a blizzard. No, this is not an adventure. After a lot of backing up, moving forward, rocking, digging up gravel, swearing, and more swearing, I was able to get the car back on to the road. I crawled the rest of the way down the pass.

Eventually the snow gave way to rain and I was able to catch up to other cars, but the fun wasn’t over. The rains were so heavy you couldn’t see well, and sections of I-25 were literally under water. Again, the semi trucks would blow past all of us, blinding us with the spray, and at one point, a big older car hit a deep pocket of water going too fast and literally fish tailed off the road. I fish tailed myself three times, but managed to stay on the road, trying to drive as slow as I could and still not get run over by the trucks.

Finally hit Denver and the roads were a mess. However, the people were driving fairly decently and had no problems in the city. As I was leaving on I-70, I noticed that the sky was much lighter and assumed that I was leaving the constant rain and cloud cover. Well, no such luck. The sky was lighter because I drove from an area inundated with rain into an area being hit with sleet and marble sized hail. You couldn’t go more than 30 — no one could — without starting to spin about. Luckily, though, the traffic was light. And no semi trucks.

Across the way, the traffic heading into the city was much heavier. I watched a small car skid as I must have skidded earlier in the day, but the driver wasn’t as lucky as I was. His car spun down the meridian between the lanes and the car’s rear ended up on top of a fence just before getting to our side of the freeway. I am immensely grateful for that fence. However, his spin started a chain reaction that resulted in what looked like four other cars and a truck spinning out or hitting each other. Unfortunately, couldn’t stop to help. Couldn’t stop.

Finally, nine hours after starting my little journey of fun, the weather started warming up, and the rain lightened. I pulled over for coffee at that point and shook like a leaf on a tree in a wind storm. I didn’t stop again until I was safely in Kansas. Nice, relatively flat Kansas. That night, I sat in a corner table in the motel restaurant, drinking margarita after margarita, while the waitress thought, “Poor dear. Sitting in a corner all by herself, getting sloshed. How sad.”

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One thing about this trip is it gave me time to think without distraction from weblog or phone. I realized that for the last several months, I’ve been in a ‘holding pattern’ of just drifting along, not taking control of my life. The depression resulting from and contributing to this formless behavior tended to cloud opportunities, which I would normally grab hold of and have fun with. I had lost a lot of joy in hiking, photography, having adventures, playing around with technology, with writing, this weblog, even with my friends.

If I wasn’t so depressed that I thought about ending my life, I also wasn’t aware enough to realize that making a decision not to die isn’t the same as making a decision to live. This trip woke me up, and forced me to reaffirm my interest in living. Many, many times. I am very lucky, in more ways than one.

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Just Shelley Weblogging

So much to say

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The best thing about a road trip covering a lot of miles (4300 miles, round trip) is returning home, sleeping in one’s own bed, and waking up in the morning realizing that you don’t have to drive through the pouring rain. It looks like the storm that’s haunted my steps this entire trip has followed me home, but today I can ignore it. Neener, neener storm.

I want to thank Jonathon again for setting up setting up a fund raiser to help me get server space for this weblog and my other material such as the photo gallery. I had reconciled myself to losing my web sites at the end of April and thought I was adjusted to the situation. However, on the road, I kept experiencing things I wanted to write about and share, and I realized that the share part had become just as important as the writing. Not just the writing — I found that my interest in technology is actually starting to re-awaken and I want to finish my online C# book, re-join the RSS fandango, play around with RDF and a new Poetry Finder, create all new photo albums and… well, Thursday I arrived home wanting desperately to find some way to keep all of this alive. Only to see this:

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This graphic or the fund link was repeated over and over again at other weblogs (MonicaLizAKMAAllanTomSteveChrisGordDorotheaDavidNormKarinJeneaneKarlGaryHylton) many times associated with the kindest words from the nicest people. I feel like I’ve been living under a cloud for so long only to have the sun come out; and it blazes with a lovely, warm, caring fire.

I’m not one to ask for monetary help. I’ve always taken rather arrogant pride in paying for my own web server and in providing web space for others. What I’ve forgotten in my pride is that help from friends when it’s needed is about the best gift one can ever receive and give in return — it’s a true two-way gift. Virtual or ‘real’ friend, doesn’t matter — Jonathon’s the absolute best to start this drive, and you’re all the best to help.

Best of all: just think of all the trouble I can continue to cause.

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Just Shelley Weblogging

Special, special friends

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I arrived in St. Louis during rush hour tonight, pretty tired. As I was waiting for 1400+ emails to download (most junk, natch), I tripped out to my favorite weblogs. That’s when I discovered Jonathon’s Keep the Bird Burning campaign.

I am too tired tonight to do this justice, but Jonathon, and my other friends who have helped with this — I don’t think any act including winning a lottery would have made me feel as warm and cared for as this act of generosity. Not just the help with hosting, for which I am incredibly grateful. But the kind words, the offers of help, the posting of nice comments — I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to put into words how much this means to me.

This trip was an important time for me to get away and think without the distraction of the phone, the television, and especially the computer. At the end of it I discovered I didn’t lose my interest in technology (not gone, just dormant, wanting a nice vacation), my deep love and need of writing, and especially, writing to this weblog. It’s become an odyssey for me, and one I didn’t want to give up. This was something that’s occupied my mind considerably today, and now I won’t have to give it up, thanks to Jonathon and his lovely effort, and to those who contributed bucks and/or good wishes.

I’ll thank you all individually tomorrow, but wanted to get this note out before going to bed. And yes, I also have photos to post and adventures to detail. What else? As a tease, think blizzard, hail, torrential rains, flooded roads, strong winds, traveling sideways down a ramp, spinning out into a ditch, and you’ll see why this wonderful surprise made a perfect ending for a rather eventful week.

Thank you my friends. Thank you. And every post from this moment on is another thank you.

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Blogging by the Bay

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I’m sitting in an Internet café overlooking the Bay trying to clean up an inordinate amount of email, most of it junk. Notice to friends, one an all — when did it become a regular thing to send emails out every time you post a new weblog posting? Believe me babes, if you write something good, we’ll post a link.

I’m also catching up on weblog reading. I can see Truth or Consequences is still a lively topic. Hopefully everyone’s playing nice together, like good little blogger boys and blogger girls.

Trip out was uneventful the first day, anything but the second. Long story and I’ll blog it when it doesn’t cost so much Photos too.

Just finished loading Golden Girl down as much as possible. Luckily I’m only driving the next few days because my back’s shot. Checked the weather this morning and looks like I’ll be going through snow on all the mountain passes for the next two days. Nothing more fun than Donner Pass in bad weather. Num!

(If I don’t make it, I hereby leave all my photos and weblog posts to the public domain. I’d attach a CC license but there isn’t a “If I kick the bucket” license.)

Thanks for all the kind comments in the last post, and the offers of hosting help. They are appreciated. Chris/Stavros from Emptybottle has found a new weblog home so he won’t be going dark at the end of the month. As for me, I might see if a friend’s offer of a host is still open. Bandwidth’s still an issue, though and it’s running late to make a change. Knock on wood.

I thought about passing the hat for donations — I’m not proud. However, I’ve found that unless you’re Doc Searls, passing the hat doesn’t usually work all that well — we’re either all broke, we’re tip jar’d out, or we’re cheap bastards.

Excuse me — that’s cheap but charming and interesting bastards.

‘Nuff, this is costing. Should be back online by end of week, at least for the rest of the month if nothing else.

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Shaped by the Audience

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When introducing the audience as a key component of weblog writing, Steve wrote:

We’re not writing an account of our lives just as a record of our lives, we’re trying to say something about our lives, and that can’t be done if we stick only to ‘facts’: the facts that will speak to me about my life—me, with all kinds of insider knowledge and secrets—is hardly going to speak to you in the same way.

We can’t read weblogs the way we read other literatures—it isn’t appropriate. They aren’t the same as novels or memoirs or what not, because of the play of time and because of other factors that would only serve to muddy the waters of my present point.

In this excerpt, Steve makes two assumptions: that we write in these weblogs to say something about our lives; and weblogs aren’t read in the same manner as other literature. He has surrounded and captured the spirit not only of the debate about truth and weblog writing, but also the expectations readers bring with them when they read our weblogs: we’re here to tell people about ourselves, and weblog writing must, above all else, facilitate this effort.

For many long-term webloggers, and for the majority of this generation of webloggers, this assumption works fairly well. However, let’s pivot our understanding a bit and ask, what if a weblogger does not see their weblog as a way of describing their life? If we change this one underlying assumption, what does this do to the rest of our assumptions?

I am a writer. I created my first story when I was too young to put it to paper and would tell it to my cat and any adult foolish enough to listen to my prattle. No matter the obstacles, the criticism, or worse, the silence, I’ll remain a writer until I return to that same state of being unable to put my stories into words.

When I started this weblog a long time ago, when it was originally called “Bridge-to-Bridge”, I did so because I wanted to use this new medium to reach a different audience; to try writing something other than technical articles and books. Somewhere along the way, the Twin Towers happened and I wrote about it and my anger against the Arab world and someone left a comment at my weblog. I was astonished! This changed the equation of my weblog — from being a new way to write essays, it now became this interactive forum, a virtual neighborhood. A way of connecting with people all over the world, and I was delighted. In that time when all of us were reaching out to each other, for comfort and for companionship, the conversation weblogging brought was welcome.

But I still remained a writer.

During the tenure of this weblog, thanks to my virtual neighborhood and the people who’ve stopped by and stayed awhile, I’ve been able to try different things and to get feedback and suggestions. Because of this, I’ve grown: as a writer, a photographer, and as a person. I am no longer afraid of exposing myself through stories and parables, or of writing fiction as well as non-fiction. I’ve even discovered poetry, to my astonishment. I am half again more than I was before starting this weblog.

At the same time, though, I’ve become aware that there are expectations associated with weblog writing. There is an assumption that ‘I’ will exist in everything we write, as well as an assumption of honesty and an acknowledgement of of the mechanics of the medium. In the last few months, I’ve come to know that there is no place in Burningbird for some of the writing I want to do; however, thanks to the support I’ve had with my fledging efforts into new territory, I’m now willing to take that writing, and the photography, elsewhere, to give it a chance on its own out there; to learn and grow in new arenas.

Would you listen to me going on about myself? If I continue, someone will think this is a weblog or something.

Steve made an important observation when he wrote:

When we read an isolated essay, by Annie Dillard, maybe, we read it as a discrete, ‘closed’ unit—there is no context unless we set out to find that context elsewhere, in biography and criticism. A weblog, on the other hand, is all context—every post we read is read through the lens of the other posts we’ve read, and if you only read one post from a blog you’re not reading the blog—which as a whole is the text, not the individual post.

We could take this farther and say that every post we read is read through the same lens of posts from other webogs, too. We don’t write these things in a vacuum, and unlike a book, sitting down in an evening and catching up our favorite weblogs usually means that we’re reading more than one weblogger’s writing at a time. Compound this with RSS aggregation tools, and other webloggers can form a context for our writing that even supercedes our own posts over time. When we experiment or tell ourselves that we’re going to write what we want to write, our audience is till reading us within context, and they will comment accordingly. Not only can this abrogate our bold ventures in writing, it can discourage them.

However, the context that discourages non-format aware writing enourages writing that enables conversation. In particular, if our weblogs contain verbal cues that fit in with other posts of the day, particularly those relevant to a specific virtual neighborhood, we’ll most likely have more comments, as well as comments more focused and relevant to what we’re saying. Think of it as fishing, and the posts are hooks. Our readers are all little fishies swimming past, and the context cues form bright little lures calling out, “Here fishie, fishie, fishie.”

A comment that Stavros (Chris) wrote to Steve’s posting would seem to corroborate this:

But must say that if there’s a schism that I find it hard to leap across, it’s not between entertainment and truth, but between entertainment and conversation, or to use slightly different words to better express what I was trying to say, between a showman and a friend, between being amused and being schooled, between passing time and carpe-ing the bloody diem, if you get my meaning.

Not to say that it’s not possible to glean a deeper understanding of who I am and what people are about from a carefully woven blogfiction, but I’ve always found (as has languagehat, I’m inferring) that the raw stories of a life teach me the most, about others and myself equally. Thus my relative valuations of the two. Like I said at Shelley’s, about you and Jonathon, but it applies equally to many others in this neighbourhood of ours, with a strong enough writer the distinction doesn’t matter as much.

…with a strong enough writer the distinction doesn’t matter much. With a strong enough writer, no distinction matters.

If we see weblogging as more conversation than literature, then we can see how the injection of ‘artistic license’ into our writing generates so much resistance. There’s a difference between reading a book or essay from an author we don’t know, and sitting down to shoot the breeze over coffee with a person who we’ve come to know as ‘friend’.

In my comments, Dale Keiger wrote the following about mixing fiction and non-fiction:

I believe there is a problem, though, when a writer presents work as nominally nonfiction, but it contains imagined material that goes unlabled. Annie Dillard is an estimable writer, a writer I teach to undergraduate and graduate writing students alike, but when she writes in Pilgrim at Tinker Creek about a cat walking about with bloody paws, and it turns out that the incident never occurred, she has broken a covenant with the reader because she presents the book as nonfiction, as verifiab. That book contains a wealth of scientific information about the natural world that the reader takes for factually accurate. How am I to regard all of that after learning that she fabricated the cat with injured paws?

In Wolf Willow, another work of nonfiction, Wallace Stegner invents a long narrative to convey the experience of a brutal Saskatchewan winter. But he tells the reader at the outset of that chapter that he’s creating the story based on historical record. He declares that he’s going to write fiction for a while. To me, this allows him the creative latitude he felt he needed for the work, without deceiving the reader.

Dale’s point about the writer breaking covenant with the reader matches closely with the pushback we’re seeing about adherance to facts within weblogging. I can understand what he’s saying and his points are good, but I don’t necessarily agree with him. At least, not in all instances, with all due respect.

The ‘bloody paws’ story of Annie Dillard’s that Dale mentions is the following passage:

I used to have a cat, an old fighting tom, who would jump through the open window by my bed in the middle of the night and land on my chest. I’d half-awaken. He’d stick his skull under my nose and purr, stinking of urine and blood. Some nights he kneaded my bare chest with his front paws, powerfully, arching his back, as if sharpening his claws, or pummeling a mother for milk. And some mornings I’d wake in daylight to find my body covered with paw prints in blood; I looked as thought I’d been painted with roses.

I found the following comment associated with this passage:

Not long ago, Annie mentioned in print that this didn’t actually happen. She told this story as a kind of metaphor to set the tone for the book. Many people got angry, saying that nature writing should be based on FACT. But I understand why she created this story. What could better bring together the child and her wonder and acceptance with an example of wildness, of nature’s violence blended with beauty. Sometimes to tell the truth you have to lie a little.

Sometimes to tell the truth you have to lie a little.

Dorothea writes:

I know I am vulnerable to deceit, as both deceiver and deceived. I am easily fooled, and if I let myself, I could easily fool people, could easily come to accept the benefits I could gain in so doing.

In its way, deceit is even more insidious than alcohol. It has plenty of innocent uses. In some contexts it is all but impossible to avoid. It has infinite guises, tastes, appearances, whose quality and utility can be endlessly argued about. Many people manage it with ease, brilliance, audacity; it is their tool and not their master.

Yet one can shut the door on alcohol, as I have, in a way that one cannot with deceit. As Jonathon’s sly quotes point out, deceit is part of language, part of life. All truths are partial, all statements deceptive. Honesty too is a pose, is unreal.

I cannot run away from lies. Cannot shut them out. Must try to find purchase on the slippery slope. This only makes deceit all the more frightening.

Dorothea’s forthright statement is understandable and hard to deny — deceit, especially among friends, is very frightening. I would rather face upfront rejection than deceit from those I care for.

But at the same time, and without any intention of being critical of Dorothea, who I care for as friend, she also puts a burden on those webloggers whose writing she reads. I’m not sure any of us can measure up to the level of Dorothea’s honesty, because it is Dorothea’s honesty, and unique to her. D, it comes as part of a burden you’ve put on yourself.

When Jonathon wrote

That’s it: where my own interests lie. In other words, hardly anything to do with telling the literal truth; and everything to do with fashioning an authentic persona from bits of alibis and consistent lies.

he wasn’t making a statement warning people he would be deceiving them from that point on. He wasn’t breaking covenant with his readers. The key to his statement was the word authentic, but so much focus since this was written has been on the word lie. Jonathon is a friend and one of my favorite people; rather than feel betrayed by his words when I read them, I was relieved. “Thank God,” I thought to myself. “I’ve missed the real Jonathon’s writing.”

Sometimes to tell the truth, you have to lie a little.

Someday when I write a book, a real book, I’m going to start it off with Assume everything you read from this point on, is a lie…